Sunday, April 17, 2011

Reflecting on Motherhood

I am joining Anne Marie this week to reflect upon motherhood, all that it encompasses for those of us who are blessed with children, and what I can do to improve my highest vocation in this life. 
What a wonderful way to end the Lenten season and to really take a look at the impact I am having on my children.

First fishing trip of the season.

I often will they remember me?
Will they have warm, lovely, happy memories?
Or will they only remember me correcting them, telling them to do something like brush their teeth, make their beds?
Will they remember my smile?

This is my highest calling in life.
These children are my greatest accomplishment and my greatest gift from God!
I know that I care for them so well: nutritious foods, a clean, fairly organized home, fun activities, lots of love.
But, do I have their hearts? 
That right there is the creme brulee of being a Mom.
When I have their hearts, I know it....I can see it in their demeanor and their actions towards one another.
It is the total answer if you have arguing and chaos going on in your home:).

And to be honest, sometimes I let that goal slip.
You see, I get busy with the day to day things like laundry, making a phone call, and cleaning.
At times, I am so guilty of not making the time to look into their eyes and really connect with them.
The kids and I on a nature walk/ bike ride.

I remember the ever famous saying growing up "Quality not Quantity."
Oh boy, I really don't like that one!
Whoever came up with that obviously didn't have kids!
It takes both...large quantities of time AND the quality they deserve.
On a Spring nature walk/bike ride:).

I love how Mother Theresa sums it up...

Speak tenderly to them. Let there be kindness in your face, in your eyes, in your smile, in the warmth of your greeting. Always have a cheerful smile. Don't only give your care, but give your heart as well.

I know this is where I need to improve.
My four blessings are absolutely precious to me and I want them to remember me as a gentle, kind, and loving Mother.
Sure, that doesn't mean I have to be a softie and let them run amuck.
But putting down the dishes, or closing the laptop when one of them needs to talk....just to really look into their eyes. 
Doing little things like coloring with Jack, saddling a horse for Tim and watching him ride, taking the time to really look at Will's newest motor repair, or dressing a baby for Lily...even if I am busy.
Tim with his horse Clover.

It is the little things that grab their hearts.
It means dropping what I am doing and realizing that a fleeting moment means more than a clean house or an errand run.
It means hugging them and telling them they are absolutely the best whenever the moment arises!
Did you know that  a child needs at least 12 hugs a day to feel loved? 
Whew...that means I need to wrap my arms around these guys 48 times a day.
I love it. 
I love them.
I truly love my job as a Mom...even though I am not perfect.
I know this time is so brief and that it is the small moments that make the memories and tie me to their hearts.

Thanks Anne Marie for the inspiration!



Amanda said...

Oh my.
You have completely said it all here.
This is my hearts desire too and it's far to easy to get caught up in the everyday and not realize the moment you are in.

Thank you beyond words for this inspiring post today.

I have been blessed.

Carissa Anne said...

What a beautiful post!! This has touched my heart.
It is so nice to read this, the nurture, the love of being a mama, over something that seems so shallow.

Thank you for sharing your heart!

Keep Home Simple said...

Hey Julia,
I love this post. I have been thinking a lot lately on the quality of my mothering. I know there is always room for improvement and that time goes so quickly. I don't have all the time in the world to "someday" become the best mom I want to be. I have to try a little harder every day to become that kind of mom. This has been so much on my mind lately that I've been thinking seriously about quiting the whole blogging thing...or at least scaling it waaaay back. Computers and blogging will probably be around forever, but I only have once chance to raise my children to the best of my ability and to focus on them, and that time is now.
Thanks for sharing your wonderful thoughts on motherhood. I really appreciated reading them.

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